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IF

If you can keep your head when all about you

Are losing theirs and blaming it on you;

If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,

But make allowance for their doubting too:

If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,

Or being lied about, don’t deal in lies,

Or being hated, don’t give way to hating,

And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise;

 

If you can dream—and not make dreams your master;

If you can think—and not make thoughts your aim,

If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster

And treat those two impostors just the same:

If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken

Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,

Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,

And stoop and build ’em up with worn-out tools;

 

If you can make one heap of all your winnings

And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,

And lose, and start again at your beginnings

And never breathe a word about your loss:

If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew

To serve your turn long after they are gone,

And so hold on when there is nothing in you

Except the Will which says to them: “Hold on!”

 

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,

Or walk with Kings—nor lose the common touch,

If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,

If all men count with you, but none too much:

If you can fill the unforgiving minute

With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run,

Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it,

And—which is more—you’ll be a Man, my son!

 

“If” by Rudyard Kipling*

*Strüfing, S. (2014). Humble Leadership: Relevance to Employees’ Creativity and Innovation Under the Consideration of Time Pressure. University of Twente, The Netherlands.

 

 

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The Open House Project

I joined the one of the largest property developing company in Indonesia in September 2013. After I worked the first two months and did not complete my probation period, I had to propose the event of the Open House for college students from the top universities in Indonesia. The company never do such an event like that before, and I had to come up with the fresh idea. The idea of Open House was the result of the one-month meeting and discussing with approximately ten universities in Indonesia. The finding was the outsider think that we were financial services company because it mixed up with the group brand company – our sister companies (pulp & paper, financial services, agribusiness, telecommunications, and mining). The goal of the open house is to give a brief information about our business and the career opportunities. After I proposed the proposal to my supervisor and she discussed with the Human Capital Managing Director, and the response was we need to wait for the owner’s approval.

I was waiting for two months, and suddenly I got news that we need to do it within a month because it was perfect timing for the college students to attend. The core team was four people, namely my supervisor – Sourcing Department Head, one of the Human Resources Business Partner Department Head, myself as Sourcing Section Head, and my team as Sourcing Staff. We had to involve all department heads mainly in Human Capital division and across divisions (marketing, sales, construction) to ask their support for this project. We also need to create a concept booklet – the employee value proposition and the concept of the open house from sharing the company value, product, employee propositions, top management’s experiences to the city’s tour (one of our famous products – a satellite city). In addition, we did not use the event organizer and created and organized the event by ourselves. There were a hundred students from several universities that came that open house day.

I learned many things from this project from the creating the employee value proposition to managing the event and the team. I experienced to organize several events when I was a bachelor student, but this project had the main challenge – engaging with the higher level. Moreover, my supervisor gave me the autonomy from allocating tasks to managing the event. She guided me to engage with the top management and managerial level. Furthermore, I learned that communication is a crucial part of the core team itself and the extended team that assisted us on the open house day. The regular meeting was an important to keep updating the information from small to big thing. I was a new employee at that time also need to learn about all the policies and procedures of the company. The project challenged me to control emotions and to believe that when we are on the team, we can do the tremendous thing that we never think before.

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Why couples break their relationship?

“I cried a lot because of you. I laughed a lot because of you. I believed in love because of you. And now I’m heartbroken because of you.” –Tyga, an American rapper.  “If you’re brave enough to say goodbye, life will reward you with a new hello.” – Paulo Coelho, a Brazilian novelist. These two quotes broken-hearted from famous people describe people who you love first are the one that potentially makes your heart broken. In addition, you need to have great courage to move on because there is a lot of opportunities out there. There are three main reasons partners break their relationship: they have high expectations from the partners, they have different top three values that should stand, and they could not tolerate the partner’s weakness.

The couples have high expectations in their mind what their mates should think, behave and say it. For example, a man expects the woman do cooking for him, oblige everything that he said, and follow his rules. On the other side, a woman hopes that man can listen to every problem that she told, support her decision in life, can always be there every time she needs. When a man or woman has something that they imagine their partners should act, but in reality, it does not happen like that; and then, the disappointment is the result that couples get. If they could not carry it on for a short or long time and happens like a snowball, it will encourage one of the partners to decide to end their relationship.

Every partner has different top values, and the change happens when one of them break it down. In life, people have values that they embrace, and they expect the others to fulfill it. For instance, a man has values that influenced by his childhood – consistency, carefulness, and patience. On the other hand, the woman has different top values – honesty, fearlessness, and trustworthiness. When they interact each other in daily life, they seem to forget to communicate their critical values. When one of the partners ignore, it disappoints their heart.

The partner cannot tolerate their partner’s weaknesses when they build the relationship. As time goes by, the partner learns everything about their partners, such as their likes and dislikes, hopes and despairs, the past and future life. The partner attempts to open themselves, such as express themselves as the needy or insensitive person, or they can be very blunt to judge something. The couple hopes their partner can support everything or accept who they are. When one partner cannot deal with the other’s vulnerabilities, there is a high possibility they will decide to give up their relationship.

The relationship is never as perfect as a fairy tale or romantic drama which has a happy ending. The couple can choose to break their relationship when they could not fulfill a high expectation from their partners, could not accept the differences of their priority values and deal the partner’s shortcomings. The general quote often hears that nobody is perfect and to commit to building it better should be a part of partner’s mindset. Maintaining the relationship needs effort from both parties to understand their partner’s self, accept every different values and fragility, and change themselves to be a better person

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Catatan

8.39 pm

Banyak cara memberikan semangat dalam menjalani segala sesuatu, melalui lagu, kata-kata bijak, dan catatan dari seorang teman. Apapun  yang sekarang sedang dialami adalah sebuah proses dan perjalanan. Harus ditempuh, dihadapi, disyukuri, dan diterima. Mengucap syukur akan segala sesuatu.

#1. “Jangan Pernah Menyerah” – Edward Chen Feat. Justin Faith Chen
Tuhan tak pernah janji,
langit selalu biru.
Tetapi Dia berjanji,
selalu menyertai.

Tuhan tak pernah janji,
jalan selalu rata.
Tetapi Dia berjanji,
berikan kekuatan.

Jangan pernah menyerah,
jangan berputus asa.
Mujizat Tuhan ada,
saat hati menyembah.

Jangan pernah menyerah,
jangan berputus asa.
Mujizat Tuhan ada,
bagi yang setia dan percaya.

https://liriklagupujian.wordpress.com/2015/10/11/jangan-pernah-menyerah/

#2. [10S] Susah sedih saya sabar senantiasa sampai saya senang suka cita selalu. -B.B. Rachmanda

#3. Terkadang kesulitan harus kamu rasakan terlebih dahulu sebelum kebahagiaan yang sempurna datang kepadamu. -R.A. Kartini

#4. If He asks much of you, it is because He knows you can give much. -St. John Paul II

#5. Act as if everything depends on you; trust as if everything depends on God. – Ignatius of Loyola

#6. Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time. – Thomas A. Edison

#7. Fear is the glue that keeps you stuck. Faith is the solvent that sets you free. -Shannon L. Adler

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IELTS Writing Task 2 – Agree or Disagree

Some people believe that what is taught in schools is not as useful as what you can learn outside the school. Do you agree or disagree?

Many people think that a lesson in schools is not beneficial like experiences outside schools. In my opinion, I completely disagree with this notion because it is a different kind of materials which we explore inside schools and outside schools.

Firstly, in schools, we study about the process of thinking critically, such as giving opinions, finding fact and stating arguments about some cases. Besides that, general knowledge is provided by lectures to understand our environments which can be complicated to learn all by ourselves. We learn the proven methods which had already been researched by scientists, researchers or professionals to assist in comprehending the world around us, for example, the theory earth’s gravitational pull.

Another point to see is experiencing outside school is like family,
community, society which is the places that we can practice those theories in a daily life. It will enrich us to gain the wisdom of the concept of theory and the practice of reality. Both of them will support one another like a circle that cannot be separated. For example, young children are getting lessons from their teachers about the respect for older people, when they are interacting with family members at home, usually they will try to act as what their lectures had taught them.

To conclude, lesson schools have the same importance as lessons outside schools since they enable us to adjust every experiences or case that happen to us. We need those to encourage is being better individuals in our societies or environments.

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IELTS Writing Task 2 – Problem Solution

More and more people work today in the large cities? Which problems can it cause? How should the governments encourage people to stay in the small regional towns?

The enormous growth in city’s population has led to city’s chaos in several cases. Although serious problems could happen as a result of this, there are solutions to solve those things that I will explain in this essay.

One of the problems is a lack of employments which is the growth in the number of people who need to work. On the other hand, the development of the suburban area is getting slower than the urban area which causes the people to mitigate. For instance, standardization of school curriculum, the range of working’s salary and service of public health. The assumption is of those standardizations of those examples above us lower than city’s qualification.

That is why it is important to take actions to combat those problems. Government has a vital role to play, such as accelerating the programme of regional’s autonomy. In other words, Governor of the regional city is the person who has a responsibility to ensure the people in local town to stay in their hometown. Besides that, the central government should develop the infrastructures of the region’s city and concerns more about public service. While the government attempts to find every solution of those cases, the people in the local town should not immediately migrate to the capital city.

In conclusion, the government could initiate programs about their region’s autonomy in a suburban area, whereas the people in the regional towns should open their mind to look opportunities that can be developed in their hometown.

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Move Forward

Book – IELTS Speaking

I think the most book that influenced me is probably “Failing Forward” by John C. Maxwell. I read it when I was 15 or years old. I was still at school, and I had just got excited about anything related Psychology. It tells the story of famous people who have different perspective and response to failure.

I learned a lot to look at failure as a lesson and stepping-stone. It affected my life because I did not enter the best class in my first-year Senior High School. And when I read the book, it motivated me to have the positive attitude and try it again. The second year, I entered the class with enough competitive and being part of top 10 students. The book helped me to move beyond my mistake that I have done to fulfill my potential and achieve my success.

Finally, the reason for this book is so influential is that it convinced me to study psychology. After reading this, I could not imagine anything better than spending a time of finding out, reflecting and learning about the past. It inspired me to have balance life between study and was doing extracurricular activities which the things that I loved and applied it to study psychology at university. And that was what I had done, all because of this book.