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Why couples break their relationship?

“I cried a lot because of you. I laughed a lot because of you. I believed in love because of you. And now I’m heartbroken because of you.” –Tyga, an American rapper.  “If you’re brave enough to say goodbye, life will reward you with a new hello.” – Paulo Coelho, a Brazilian novelist. These two quotes broken-hearted from famous people describe people who you love first are the one that potentially makes your heart broken. In addition, you need to have great courage to move on because there is a lot of opportunities out there. There are three main reasons partners break their relationship: they have high expectations from the partners, they have different top three values that should stand, and they could not tolerate the partner’s weakness.

The couples have high expectations in their mind what their mates should think, behave and say it. For example, a man expects the woman do cooking for him, oblige everything that he said, and follow his rules. On the other side, a woman hopes that man can listen to every problem that she told, support her decision in life, can always be there every time she needs. When a man or woman has something that they imagine their partners should act, but in reality, it does not happen like that; and then, the disappointment is the result that couples get. If they could not carry it on for a short or long time and happens like a snowball, it will encourage one of the partners to decide to end their relationship.

Every partner has different top values, and the change happens when one of them break it down. In life, people have values that they embrace, and they expect the others to fulfill it. For instance, a man has values that influenced by his childhood – consistency, carefulness, and patience. On the other hand, the woman has different top values – honesty, fearlessness, and trustworthiness. When they interact each other in daily life, they seem to forget to communicate their critical values. When one of the partners ignore, it disappoints their heart.

The partner cannot tolerate their partner’s weaknesses when they build the relationship. As time goes by, the partner learns everything about their partners, such as their likes and dislikes, hopes and despairs, the past and future life. The partner attempts to open themselves, such as express themselves as the needy or insensitive person, or they can be very blunt to judge something. The couple hopes their partner can support everything or accept who they are. When one partner cannot deal with the other’s vulnerabilities, there is a high possibility they will decide to give up their relationship.

The relationship is never as perfect as a fairy tale or romantic drama which has a happy ending. The couple can choose to break their relationship when they could not fulfill a high expectation from their partners, could not accept the differences of their priority values and deal the partner’s shortcomings. The general quote often hears that nobody is perfect and to commit to building it better should be a part of partner’s mindset. Maintaining the relationship needs effort from both parties to understand their partner’s self, accept every different values and fragility, and change themselves to be a better person

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TO LOVE

I do not know that I love you until it feels hurt.
It is a pain to understand the different things that we have.
I need to realize that you need time alone for your dream.

I still even do not know for everything that you chose.
Am I the only side to love you or do you also love me back?
May I wonder about your love?
Or I just to feel that love is just to give and never ask to get back.

Sometimes, it’s hard to understand everything.
But, I am still here.
To accept who you are.
Believe who you will be.
And to wait for miracles.

It will be easier for me if this ‘thing’ will say it clear, look like apparently, and appear what it should be.
But it is not.
It seems like a gray color that does not know where it goes.

But I am still here.
To love.
YOU.

 

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The Story – Unspoken Words

If I can say………

 

Dear  ………….. (put the name of the person that you want to give thanks),

You are great! You are awesome..! You are amazing..! You are strong..! You are a rock..!. You are so well-disciplined..! You inspire me to be the best! You continue to impress me..! You really are…

I really appreciate you.. I respect you.. I have learned so much from you.. I am proud of you. I love your sense of humour.. I trust your judgement..

Your secrets are safe with me.. I am sorry. Will you please forgive me? …. I forgive you.

When you listened to me, you made me feel loved. Thank you, that was really kind. Thanks for doing that.

Do you know how much I (l. …. e) you? Just wanted to let you know I am praying for you. I miss you. Have a great time!

 

From a blessed woman xoxo

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12 Awe-Inspiring Quotes

  1. The most important thing in life is to learn how to give out love, and to let it come in. -Morrie Schwartz
  2. Sometimes I think there are only two instructions we need to follow to develop and deepen our spiritual life: slow down and let go. –Oriah Mountain Dreamer
  3. Guard well within yourself that treasure, kindness. Know how to give without hesitation, how to lose without regret, how to acquire without meanness. -George Sand
  4. We must shift our allegiances from fear to curiosity, from attachment to letting go, from control to trust, and from entitlement to humility. -Angeles Arrien
  5. Don’t ask yourself what world needs. Ask yourself what makes you come alive, and go do that, because what the world needs is who have become alive. –Howard Thurman
  6. Love is not patronizing and charity isn’t about pity, it is about love. Charity and love are the same – with charity you give love, so don’t just give money but reach out your hand instead. –Mother Theresa
  7. Life’s most persistent and urgent question is, ‘What are you doing for others’? – Martin Luther King, Jr.
  8. Go fast enough to get there, but slow enough to see.  – Jimmy Buffett
  9. I am only one, but I am one. I cannot do everything, but I can do something. And I will not let what I cannot do interfere with what I can do. –Edward Everett Hale
  10. The artist is nothing without the gift, but the gift is nothing without work. –Emile Zola
  11. It has become appallingly obvious that our technology has exceeded our humanity. –Albert Einstein
  12. Education is not the learning of facts, but the training of the mind to think. –Albert Einstein

*Source: Daily Good – News Inspire You

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Semangat!

Tidak sebuah kebetulan mendapatkan sebuah CD dari sebuah restoran makanan.

Dan ternyata liriknya membantu semangatkan lagi hati yang kelabu ini ..:)

Terima kasih, Mr. J 🙂

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Ruth Sahanaya – Love Will Find a Way
Di saat hatimu luka
Terluka karena cinta
Lupakanlah dia yang tlah pergi

Ooo.. dan yakinlah di hati
Semuanya kan berganti
Temukan lagi bahagia

Kadang langit malam tak berbintang
Namun esok kan bersinar terang

And someday, you will find somebody to hold you
If you believe in love , It’ll never let you down
Someday, you’ll see true love will never leave you
Open your heart and pray
Let it come.. let it come, love will find a way

Love will find a way

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Life

The unexamined life is not worth living. -Socrates

I have a dream that my four little children will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by the color of their skin but by the content of their character. -Martin Luther King Jr.

Nobody can discover the world for somebody else. Only when we discover it for ourselves does it become common ground and a common bond and we cease to be alone. -Wendell Berry

The most beautiful experience we can have is the mysterious — the fundamental emotion which stands at the cradle of true art and true science. – Albert Einstein

Attention is the rarest and purest form of generosity. -Simone Weil

Love recognizes no barriers. It jumps hurdles, leaps fences, penetrates walls to arrive at its destination full of hope. -Maya Angelou

It can hurt to go through life with your heart open, but not as much as it does to go through life with your heart closed. – Jim Doty

There is a hard law. When an injury is done to us, we never recover until we forgive. -Alan Paton

The task of healing is to respect oneself as a creature, no more and no less. -Wendell Berry

It is only by holding, not forcing, that we can find our feet again and secure solid ground when everything else is shaking. In a world where productivity rules, this in itself is true resistance. -Janey Stephenson

Laughter is immeasurable. Be joyful through you have considered all the facts. -Wendell Berry

We do not inherit the Earth from our Ancestors, we borrow it from Children. -Native American Proverb

 

*Have a lovely day, folks

 

*Source: DailyGood – News that Inspires

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Silence

 

 

My mouth is sealed. I do not know why it happens.
My ears can hear what the noises are coming out.
My eyes just enjoy looking around, and they just know.

Time flies so fast, and something inside could not go.
It keeps stay and sometimes needs attention.
I just want to let it be without interpretation.
Sometimes, I am just acting to pretend nothing happens.
It could not be. I realize. I never can lie to myself. I just know.

I am not sure when the end of this story, just time will answer that.
Can my mouth open and say some words?

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